Last year, Jamie Lee Curtis’ daughter introduced herself to her and her husband, Christopher Guest, as transgender. In a new interview with peopleCurtis and his daughter Ruby speak for the first time about their family’s trip and say they hope Ruby’s story resonates with other families.
“It was scary – just just telling them something about me they didn’t know,” Ruby said, telling her parents that she wanted to turn out to be trans. “It was intimidating, but I wasn’t worried. They had accepted me so much my whole life.”
Curtis, who fully and unconditionally accepts his daughter, admits that she won’t always be successful. But she’s dedicated to getting around the learning curve.
“It’s speaking a new language,” Curtis explains. “It’s learning new terminology and new words. I’m new to it. I’m not someone who claims to know a lot about it. And I’m going to blow it up, I’m going to make mistakes. J ‘would like to try to avoid making big mistakes. “
Becoming more thoughtful around Ruby is a must, and Curtis says she’s always aware of how her words are going to land.
“You slow down your speech a bit,” she said. “You become a little more careful with what you say. How you say it. You’re still wrong, I messed up twice today. We’re human.”
“But if a person reads this, sees a picture of Ruby and I, and says, ‘I feel free to say that’s who I am,’ then it’s worth it.”
Based on data accumulated by The Trevor project, 1.8% of young people identify as transgender. Transgender youth report significant increases in rates of depression, suicide and victimization compared to their cisgender peers. In 2018, one in three young transgender people said they had attempted suicide.
Surrounding transgender people, especially children, with love, acceptance and support is paramount. Having a top celebrity like Jamie Lee Curtis and his daughter share their story publicly is invaluable and hopefully people are listening and learning from it.
For her part, Curtis says she is a “grateful student” while learning from Ruby. She admits, however, that she still wants to know how she can do better.
“You did your best, and that’s all I want,” Ruby said to her mother. “Helping others is something everyone should be doing. I don’t think it’s just our household business. It should be a human thing.”